Heba is doing a good job talking about sex between husband and wives. . Its a eye opener for most of us.

There are things like oral sex i thot was wrong just hearing from friends and colleagues but didnt know that it was like there…….. u know what i mean. some of us are blind and we shud thank if someone out there has studied and is ready to share with other women and saving alot of marriages from breaking instead of appretiating, i think it is very wrong of others to call it AL CRAP!!!!!

Wasalam Keep up the good work Hebo we need more people like u to enlighten us on issues we are to afraid to ask and end up losing everything.

wa alaykum asalaam. Alperen, welcome to you! Good comment please, feel free to comment anytime.

-Saifuddin

I live in Turkey and I had only the oppurtunity of reading articles like that about Heba Kotb, but I can understand clearly that she has a right aspect on the matter and also has a very good knowledge about our religion’s sources. I believe that she’s very important to make a synthesis between our religion and modern science on sexuality. Like she said, our religion Islam is “ahead in all sexual matters … long before the rest of the world”.

I strongly disagree with Mona Helmi, Islam bring orders in all areas of life and so we need to know and apply its view on everything.

as-salaamu ‘alaikum. pistolpete you wrote,

“I would imagine that, like with Christianity, Muslims interpret sacred texts in a variety of ways such that sex might come out seeming dirty or it might be a healthy expression of love.”

That is a good assement. There are a number of elements that enter a Muslim’s religious life as a result of cultural beliefs that have nothing at all to do with Islam. But of course, a clever person can do anything with text. This is why you need shaykhs those righteous elders and scholars of the community that carry a position of authority and leadership to direct the community in the way of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.).

But many will argue that it is the shaykhs that reinforce the culturally colored interpretations of the Qur’an. I would merely say to them, perhaps you should evaluate how your community identifies someone as a shaykh, a righteous elder?

Unfortunately, I do not necessarily buy what you are saying. I know a couple of good Muslim men, though tempted, as we all are, do not pursue their natural inclinations or lusts. Yes, I am being anecdotal, but do elaborate on the reasoning to your conclusion. A couple things need to be sorted out, for clarity. How do you define a “Muslim” and what is your link between peers not knowing and hypocrisy? Your conclusion does not necessarily follow, to say the least.

Alykum’aslaam for now.

Thanks for posting this. The Prophet, peace & blessings upon him, was both frank and modest in speaking about sexuality and we could all learn much from his words.

Adeel, how can there be no proof of her work in the light of Quran and Sunnah?

Taking just one example: ‘Islam “stresses the importance of foreplay”’, we find this commonly-quoted hadith:

The Prophet said, “No one among you should have sex with his wife like animals; rather there should be a messenger between them.” When asked about the messenger, he said, “It means kissing and talking.”

What is so unIslamic about mutually satisfying and loving marital relationships?

Such a relationship is obviously based on his sunnah - and his wife Aisha (ra) said his life was the Qur’an embodied.

Thanks again, Hakim.

Warmly,
Baraka

All crap…